Look no longer behind you. You can't change the past, so why look there? Look ahead in front of you and discover the new path before you. It's filled with new places, new spaces, new faces, and new GRACES. No longer let the past become a stumbling block. Look ahead! Put one foot in front of the other and follow My lead. :) <3
If you are around children any amount of time, you’ll probably hear a familiar phrase during disagreements: “It’s not my fault.” From a very early age, we naturally learn to shift blame from ourselves to other people. If our parents and other influential people don’t teach us to be powerful and responsible for our choices, we will carry this powerless, responsibility-shifting behavior into adulthood. If your parents taught you to be responsible for your choices, then you should go home and thank them. It’s a rare gift.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of powerless adults running around out there.
Every man in a relationship knows the real pressure he faces around this time every year(Valentines Day or any other special occasion): “How do I find the perfect gift that shows her how much I love her?” (Or really like her, if you’re dating).
Classically, the thing to do for Valentine’s Day is to give flowers and chocolate. But how many of us have spent hundreds of dollars on roses and chocolate, only to be met with a less-than-enthusiastic response from our significant other? She may have played along, but it was obvious that something was missing. She didn’t feel loved. What’s the deal?
The classic relational dynamic created by powerless people is called triangulation. When you believe that other people are scary, unsafe, and more powerful than you, and when you believe that you need to get them to meet your needs, then you have three possible roles you get to play in relationships: the victim, the bad guy, or the rescuer.
Let’s take a look at the mindset of each of these roles:
Moms, Satan’s looking for ways to destroy you—and this pretty much outlines his plan, right here. Written in C.S. Lewis’ “Screwtape Letters” style, it’s absolutely chilling!
My Dear Wormwood,
I was thrilled to hear you have been making progress with the mother. You have a good lead, from what I hear. She’s feels over-worked, unappreciated, and discouraged? I’m so glad to hear it. If you tread carefully, this can be a great opportunity. With the kids waking her up every hour last night, we already have an advantage. A tired Mom makes for a more emotional Mom, and an emotional Mom is a vulnerable one.
I do have a few tips. First, aim your best efforts at her marriage...
I have heard it said so many times before “as soon as I get married I know all these things will change” I would like to invite all of us, and not just those of us that have not been married before to consider the following truths that I believe will cause every present and future marriage to be the healthy and wonderful experience I believe God had in mind when he designed it...
Have you ever thought about what it means, really means, to be made in God's image as it says in Genesis 1:26?
This is something I have spent much time meditating on over the years, especially when I was still in clinical practice. I would have patients coming to me with lots of baggage, which included all kinds of evaluations and assessments of all their learning problems and emotional issues. Although I have a healthy respect for the diagnostic tools they had gone through and that I had been trained to administer, I felt we had to dig below the surface of the issues to separate out the real person from the person they had become...
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