If you are around children any amount of time, you’ll probably hear a familiar phrase during disagreements: “It’s not my fault.” From a very early age, we naturally learn to shift blame from ourselves to other people. If our parents and other influential people don’t teach us to be powerful and responsible for our choices, we will carry this powerless, responsibility-shifting behavior into adulthood. If your parents taught you to be responsible for your choices, then you should go home and thank them. It’s a rare gift.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of powerless adults running around out there.
Every man in a relationship knows the real pressure he faces around this time every year(Valentines Day or any other special occasion): “How do I find the perfect gift that shows her how much I love her?” (Or really like her, if you’re dating).
Classically, the thing to do for Valentine’s Day is to give flowers and chocolate. But how many of us have spent hundreds of dollars on roses and chocolate, only to be met with a less-than-enthusiastic response from our significant other? She may have played along, but it was obvious that something was missing. She didn’t feel loved. What’s the deal?
The classic relational dynamic created by powerless people is called triangulation. When you believe that other people are scary, unsafe, and more powerful than you, and when you believe that you need to get them to meet your needs, then you have three possible roles you get to play in relationships: the victim, the bad guy, or the rescuer.
Let’s take a look at the mindset of each of these roles:
God is Building A House of Habitation.... Do We know Where to Look and what to look for?
Read below as Papa God shares His heart, in what He's looking for, and how we can join in with what He's doing. Many of us will bare witness with joy at His words and what lays ahead. This was the word He had me release this last Saturday at the end of my message at Face to Face Ministries in Canada. Be encouraged! Amy <3
Ending Your Effort-filled Relationship With Survival
(Two Lovers -Two Trees)
Papa God shared...
The same fruit begets the same fruit in your life. You have to be willing to start eating from a different tree. When you eat from the Tree of Life, your taste buds change and develop. Again, life in Me is about feasting! So, wouldn't you say it's not through your own self-effort and disciplined ways? It is a matter of developing new tastebuds by changing what your eating and feasting on?
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